Whether you are talking about the relationship you have with your family, or you are talking about the relationship you have with your lover, there is only one factor that matters, the thoughts you hold. If you hold positive thoughts about the people you interact with, you will continue to experience positive experiences when you are around them. On the other hand, if you continue to hold negative thoughts about the people you interact with, you will continue to attract negative experiences when you are around them.
The law of attraction states like attracts like. Everything in the Universe is energy vibrating at a specific frequency. The way you feel is an indicator of the frequency you are currently vibrating at. When you feel good, you are attracting good feeling experiences into your life. When you feel bad, you are attracting bad feeling experiences into your life.
Many people end up blaming others when they have bad experiences with others. In reality though, you are creating the life you are living. When you have a bad experience with another person, you had that experience due to the thoughts you have been thinking and the feelings you have been feeling.
If you would like to change your relationship, you just have to change the thoughts you have about your relationship. For example, if there is someone in your life that you think is mean, you just have to change your thoughts to match what you are really wanting to experience. Start seeing them and thinking about them being nice to you. Once you start doing this, you will notice an improvement in the way you feel and you will certainly attract experiences or interactions with that person that match your new thoughts and feelings too.
If nothing is more important to you than that you feel good, you can create a fantasy about someone who is in your life and they will begin to modify to meet your fantasy, because the law of attraction is very powerful. Just by viewing your relationship differently, you will effect change in your relationship.
This information might be hard for some people to believe though. If you are having a hard time believing this to be true, it is best that you try to use this process in your relationships to see for yourself that it truly does work. For example, if you currently think and feel that your lover does not give you enough attention, try picturing your lover giving you tons of attention and find the feelings you would be feeling if this were true. Focus on these new thoughts and these new feelings as much as you can and avoid slipping back into your old patterns of thought. Once you do this, you will likely see a noticeable difference in your relationship practically immediately.
No matter what type of relationship you are working with, you can change the relationship just by changing the thoughts you hold about the relationship. When you know what you do not want, because it makes you feel bad, you also know what you do want too. If someone around you starts acting in a manner that you do not like, simply ask yourself what you want from the relationship. Then, once you know what you want, you can give your undivided attention to what you want, find the feelings of having it now, and what you want will become your experience practically immediately.